Hello. Hello. And thank you for tuning in to another episode of the Backyard Barbecue Podcast. This is your host, Eric Cool Breeze. Thank you for tuning in today. Hope everyone is having a wonderful day. For you newcomers. Thank you for tuning in. Hope you enjoyed the show. You could tell your family, friends, loved ones about the podcast. This podcast. Airs on most of your major podcast networks. Apple Co podcast, Google Podcast, Spotify, iHeart Music Radio, Amazon Music, and any other major platform that you can think of. So, jumping into our topic today I don't even know what to call this one. I hope I can think of something by the end of when I get done. I just really I'm gonna need y'all help, with this I only have the audio version of a clip, but if you have to listen to it a few times I'm calling on everyone in the community to help me out with this one. If you recognize this voice, if you could just please get. This person some help. I feel like before I play it, I need to give like, they have on tv. The viewer or listener discretion is advised that this might mess you up a little bit after you hear it. So I just wanted to kind of pre-warn you all but I'm just gonna go ahead and play it and Oh, here it goes. A lot of people got something to say about the fact that I got six kids with six different men, so I'm just gonna tell y'all why it is better to do it this way. If I had six kids with all the same dude, I get 34% of his income, which is only six 80 a month. If I got six kids with six different dudes, I get 17% from each one of'em, which is 340 a month from each one.$340 a month time six baby daddies is 2040. So why don't you have six baby daddies? Okay. Okay. I have so many questions about this post, man. I couldn't even, I wish you all could see it and if you saw it already, you're probably already laughing because first off this was a white young lady. She had a half mask on the paper mask. And when I say half, I mean like it was It was a whole torn in the mouth part of it which kind of defeats the purpose of the mask. And I was just so confused. I feel like like I need to reach out to the drug dealers. Like if you recognize that voice and you sell drugs, please don't sell this girl any more. Drugs. Not a one. I don't care if it's weed, and, God forbid is anything stronger than weed, just please stop. Because this girl got said that she has six kids by six different baby daddies. First off, you guys out there need to start making sure that you're strapping up and you need to be finding out who these girls is that you're sleeping with and what baggage they got along with it. And I'm not calling the kids baggages because they're. They're they're innocent creatures in all of this. But you need to be concerned about who's burying your child. Thi this girl said, gave some figures that was just absolutely crazy. Basically, the numbers that she gave, cause I'm pretty good with math. She, I think the calculation that she came up with was about 2000 something dollars a month, lady.$2,000 a month was six kids. First off, where are you living at? Because six kids you gonna lease, let's just say two kids to a room. So that's three rooms, plus your room. So you need a four, four bedroom apartment or a four bedroom house. I don't know how much it costs right now for for rental of an apartment. I know in Chicago about 10 years ago when I was looking for an apartment, I think it was about that much just for Like a two bedroom,$2,000, so I have a few questions like where do you live? What are you driving, what are these kids looking like? And when I say, what are they looking at? Like, how are you, this can't be the sole means of taking care of these kids because the figures that she gave, I had broke'em down. This equates to$78 and 46 cents a week for each child, and on a seven day scale, you're talking about$11 or 20 cents a day per child. The, that's like the equivalency of what they be asking for in the commercials for the kids, a dollar a day. Can feed this child. Now, you notice on the commercials they say can feed this child. They don't say nothing about clothing or providing shelter for the child. They're just saying that you can feed them. This lady has basically made her kids into a business unsuccessful business at that, I don't know what you can do. I have four children. I don't know what you can do with$11 and 20 cents. Per child a day if these are little kids. I have older kids and I was just telling my older son not too long ago about, when he chooses to have kids, Hey, you gotta make sure that you're in a financially good space. I didn't even know that little jar Similac is$35. Now, I'm 42, so when I. My oldest son is 21. So 21 years ago it was like, I think 12 or$15 or something like that, and those of us who have had kids know that container, that little canned emac ain't that thing be gone in a week. You don't even, you don't even have enough Similac To feed the child for the week$35. You done spent that already? In two cans. So as the kids are getting older, you, what are you doing? And let's just start off from the top, from rent, because after if you're dependent on this$2,000, then you already, these kids already messed up because. Even if you find a place that's all the income that you're getting, two,$2,000, I, man, I just that just was one that just had blew past me. And on a serious note, I, I hope that we are thinking better than this out here. Having a child is a responsibility. Kids they're innocent. They don't have anything to do with our in a sense they don't have anything to do with our irresponsible decisions. In another sense they do because now they're here, and considering, especially considering that they are now in the midst of a battle about abortion rights. Trying to take them away. You don't have time for a lot of error, and once again, I appeal to the men out here and and it's a 50 50 thing, but men, gotta start being a little bit smarter on who you sleeping with, you have a young lady that has six baby daddies and. What I know for a fact is she probably not done, she's came up with this not so brilliant mathematical equation of how to get income because she had the audacity to act in the end. So why don't you have six baby Deads? For a lot of reasons, lady, these women don't have six baby daddies for a lot of reasons. And a lot of good reasons. I could name at least six different reasons why you shouldn't have six different baby daddies. And the and mind you, that, that equation, because let's be a little realistic here. You these can't be H quality men, because any man with any sense is gonna ask about how many kids you have. Ahead of time during these first couple of dates, how many kids do you have? How many baby fathers do you have? And let's just say I am number six that rolls around. I'm, if you told me that you got five baby daddies, I'm not really anxious to become number six. I'm not even, I'm not really even me personally, I'm not even about to go out on a date with you. We gonna have that phone conversation or that, that meetup, like I told you all a couple months ago, we gonna have that meetup and once we meet up and I discovered that you have five baby daddies already, it ain't no point of me wasting no money on no date. Hey, you going to, you can get this ice cream or this cup of coffee and it's all good, like, give you a little break. I appreciate you telling me that you're irresponsible enough to have five baby daddy, so I don't wind up being number six. And then don't keep it moving, but something was to be said about at least five of these guys, or I'll give or take four, I feel like once you. Experienced life in terms of kids and what can happen and why you need to start being responsible, then, certain activities should cease. And so again, I say that to say these guys can't be, I'm sure these aren't anybody's executives anywhere, because it would just be irresponsible. And for the women, the, like I said earlier, it's a 50 50 thing. And so for the women, I've preached this earlier. Kinda stole one of my homeboys favorite phrases, that's six baby digs. That's poor pussy management. Excuse my French, but that's what it is. You have the opportunity to protect the world and a sense with your wound, you have the chance to protect the world with what's in between your legs. Because if you're willing to have a baby with a triathlon or a A trilon man or a man that's not about nothing, then we're going to, we're gonna assume that the child has a greater chance of not being nothing to, and I hate to say that in terms of a kid, but it's, it's the truth. I mean, if you have a father that's not amounting up too much, that might be there or might not. And chances are probably that he might not. And then you got a mother who isn't really. Thinking about the kids like that because you can't it's hard for me to phantom that a mother would be thinking about the welfare of these children who has, again, an audacity to get on social media and break down this mathematical equation about why is it's smarter to have six, six different baby daddies instead of, six kids with one person. That's crazy. Hey, I can get more money from six different guys than, if they keep breaking down the percentage of having six kids with one guy. Not only am I gonna mess up these kids lives but I'm also just going to. Keep having more kids, and who knows, maybe she's not even done. But you know, I know we we live in a different time even than when I was coming up. We stay at a time where, you got marijuana that has become legal in a lot of states. It's not even the same weed, it's, it is different weed than 20 years ago. And then people are doing more drugs than just weed now. And so I don't know if it's the drugs that's doing it, but there definitely needs to be a different thought process and that people are caring about, I'm sure you can make, if$2,000 is a big, is something big, you could have probably made that at McDonald's, I'm assuming right about now. I think most of the McDonald's paying pay, you know what, 15,$20 an hour right now, you can make$2,000.$2,000 is only$500 a week. You can go anywhere and make a hundred dollars a day. You ain't gotta hire six kids and ruin six lives to do that, yeah. Gotta do better than this, man. It just gotta be a better way, that, I don't know. I'm just a little stu Just over this whole, when I seen this I really wasn't planning on having this topic, but when I seen it, I just couldn't help. But the jump on this, it just was, I couldn't believe what I had heard. That's why I said we need to send out A P B on this girl's voice. You, if you hear this voice, man please help that lady. And for me, I don't really care what nobody does with with they body. What I do care about is these kids that that come about. Through these parents irresponsible decisions, because now you're breeding a whole nother possibly generation of kids that grow up into young adults with the same type of mentality. Because if your mama was willing to get on social media and say all of that, And try to make sense of it. Take a bold person first off to present some nonsense and try to present it to you like it's a genius idea. You know what I'm saying? It would be almost like me giving you all a scenario as to why you should go and jump in front of a truck on the ES expressway. Because if you jump in front of a truck on the expressway and you live that company probably gonna have to pay you a lot of money. It just sounds stupid. I mean, and that's how I felt about that. It just sounds stupid, and. So again I implore, I, I don't even know a whole lot more to say about this is, some stuff, it just be so crazy. You don't even know what to say. It's like you do have a lot of thoughts about it, but you, the shit just be so stupid. You just don't even know what to say about that. You like, that's just too stupid for me to even open my mouth for coming about. And that's how I'm feeling right now is like, it's just unbelievable, but, this is the world that we living in and we just gotta do better. We gotta do better with our teenagers. Those of us who have teenagers I have one in the house now that's getting ready to graduate high school next year, and I just try to talk to'em as much as I can. About decision making and because at a certain point with even with your teenage kids, it gets to a point where you're the person that's there to guide them with their decisions because it's not much that you're gonna be able to tell them in terms of what to do and what not to do. We could try, might be some, Hey, don't you come in this house after this time. But it's a lot of other stuff that these kids, they just gonna do what they want to do, and at a certain age, especially as they start to get in those, in the second half of high school, you just really gotta help them prepare to make decisions as adults. Because after they leave from high school, they're, if they go to college and they go away, you're not gonna be able to tell them kids what to do. I got one in college now and. When he was in high school, that junior and senior year, I told him that my job as his father from that point on was to help him make sound decisions for himself. Because right now, while he's outta school, he's, he's living an adult life. He's gonna make adult decisions for what he feels like is best for him, and so the only thing that I do is I keep him in the loop. When he, I'm open to hearing whatever he has to say. Even if I don't like it, because hey, it's a lot of stuff that my parents didn't like. It's, with me moving after I moved out their house, but it's not your job to, to like it, it's just kind of to listen and respect it, and we teach our kids to make decisions for themselves and to grow up. Problem B is when they make decisions that we don't agree with, then we get mad. So, instead of doing that, just kinda get used to adapting, because the last thing that you want to do is to scare your kid off from being able to come and talk to you freely as a young adult. And then the streets began to teach them and then they wind up saying dumb stuff like that young lady about why it's advisable to have six baby daddies. And then, you got your kid because that's somebody's kid. And that video, I'm sure it went viral, and so you just imagine if that's your kid. And if it is whoever kid that is, Hey, I'm, I, I don't know. I don't know what to say to you. I hope things get better, with in the Logic department. But that is somebody's kid out there. And if it was your kid, then you're gonna be. Be thinking like, where did I, where did I go wrong with this? Because there's nothing right about this. I don't care if the mom and daddy is listening right now. There's nothing right about that particular scene that, that video, it was nothing right about that, but that's why I support, to kinda help nurture these kids as they go along. Sometimes once they get to adult, Adulthood, you, Hey, they made their own decisions. They ain't listening to you. What you got to say? Your advice, your help. Then some instances, hey, you gotta kinda throw your hands up a little bit and allow them to make the mistakes that they're gonna make. Some of us learn better by experience. I used to think that I learned better by experience until I found out that experience is not the best teacher all the time. So right now I would rather listen to. The words of people that have come before me or as I see things on the news, social media, hear stories from other people. I would rather, go off those stories and say, Hey, it is probably not a good idea if I do that, it's probably not a good idea if I jump in front of a truck just to see if I could get some money. It's probably not a good idea if I go and, impersonate. Six different women. I have six kids that I gotta take care of. That's, those are not smart decisions. So I implore everybody to make wiser decisions this week, and maybe if you know someone who needs some mentoring, pull a person to the side that might need some mentoring and, help them out. You might see somebody that's on the brink of disaster and you might be the person that could save them, because we all have different people coming to our lives for different reasons and different seasons. And so you just have to find out the people that are in your life, why are they in your life? Is it for them to help you, or you to help them? And that, and if you can see that you can help them, then help them, don't let a person fall by the wayside, because hey, you feel like you ain't got time for that, or you know that they're not gonna listen to you. Try first and if they don't listen to you, then hey, at least you tried. So, that'll be it for today. I hope you all have a good rest of your week, and I will see you soon.